Managing a Crying Baby
Babies are programmed to get their needs met by the adults around them by crying. Parents can be left feeling confused and stressed by a baby who cries and without understanding and support you can feel your confidence undermined. Babies are born with the ability to cry but have to learn how to smile – so try not to take it personally!
Crying can be for almost any reason, but one thing is for certain – you do not ‘spoil’ a baby by responding to their crying.
Start with the basics and work through until you find the cause, your baby will learn to trust you and to have confidence that their needs will be met. All children differ in the amount of comfort and attention they need to feel secure. Responding to their crying will help them gradually become less anxious or demanding and more able to cope with situations.
A baby could be crying to let you know:
- They are too hot / too cold. A hand on their back or chest is a more reliable indicator or body heat than feeling their hands
- They are uncomfortable in their nappy or clothes
- They are hungry
- They have wind – try bending legs up to the tummy to ease wind if rubbing is not effective
- They are too tired – if you are out and about your child can become exhausted or overwhelmed by all the sights and sounds to take in, making it difficult for them to drop off to sleep
- They are bored – music is a great one to try if you are uncertain as it can help with tiredness and boredom! Some babies respond to ‘white noise’ like the washing machine as it is said to mimic womb sounds. Getting some fresh air can also help with tired or bored. A baby who gets fresh air daily may sleep better
- They want some comfort from you – singing can soothe your baby, even if you don’t think you have a great voice your baby will love it. Put on some music and dance around with your baby - sounds mad but it can do you both good! A good old fashioned cuddle – giving comfort when it’s needed makes your child more confident. Some babies respond well to swaddling in a blanket, giving them a feeling of security – but check temperature regularly
- They are feeling ill or teething. Don’t be afraid to check with your doctor if you think your baby may be ill, a parent’s instinct is usually correct
